Some passions are born out of life experiences and others just by wanting to make a positive difference in the world. For
Why? Because of certain experiences in my own life and family and one significant choice I made in October 1986. I had an abortion.
If I knew back then what I would go through, I would have chosen life for my baby, and a life free from the consequences of health and relationship problems.
The abortion experience has never left me, and for years I wondered how to give other women like myself a safe place to grieve; how to give them a way to commemorate the babies lost. For there is no grave we can visit, no place to lay flowers, no tangible way of remembering them.
My husband Peter and I were able to come to a point where we grieved together, found forgiveness and healing, and this enabled us to move forward. In June 2008, the Buttons Project was born to help towards healing from abortion.
I named our aborted baby, “Hope”. Hope for the future; hope to be a good mum, wife
In a nutshell, the Buttons Project aims to collect buttons – thousands of buttons – to commemorate the babies we never met. It enables not only women who have been affected by abortion, but also the fathers, grandparents, sisters or brothers to “do something when there is nothing you can do.”
Why a button? It is easy to find and easy to send. It can be unique – representing a personal loss. It can
Sending in a button or a story won’t heal anyone in and of itself. But it is a place to
Some buttons come with their story, some in an unmarked envelope. All the buttons are
The Buttons Project has been significant for many people in their journey of healing and remembrance. Abortion is often
Often after an
To help others and to educate, Peter and I published an A5 booklet The Unforgotten Babies – The inspiration behind the Buttons Project, which is part of my abortion story and journey of healing. Peter also shares from his perspective, because men are often the forgotten fathers and voices not heard. It is a great resource for all those that work in the community sector, churches, schools, and for people personally affected by abortion.
Our hope is that by sharing some of our
The Buttons Project works with a variety of
Many post-abortive women and men, are often struggling alone with their pain and just waiting for the right person to hear their story. Someone who will not condemn them or
Marina Young is the Founder of the Buttons Project in New Zealand.